Issues of second positions of co wives'. 1. I have chosen not to opt in for a co wife relation. Why? The reasons are many. 1.Today there are many thousands of women who can endanger the family because of mental health issues'. 2.That the disease rates', even amongst Muslims are at the highest yet seen. 3. These diseases' number in there thousands', and are life crippling and disabling and even killers'. 4. To manage one family in Europe, is more then enough. 5. That we live in a state whereby Muslims' are almost under-dog punished. 6. That the other women try their hardest to incline a first marriage divorce, no matter what the other wife has been through to sustain the marriage and children's upbringing and or the amount of patience that this one has had to deal with in relation to the selfishness of mans greed, and they can be selfish. 7. That some women out of spite, go as far as to murder their co wife's and or future co wife's unborn children. This is the state of affairs that we have to manage today. There is no way I am going to opt for this. That, it is sunnah, but not fard, and you tend to forget this, rather making something fard, out of excuses of hardened trinity oppositions', almost creating a bidda out of our religion, and making everyone participate in an optional decree set by the final messenger, that clearly stated a option.